Hopefully this time you get your girl!
I have heard the above phrase more times than I can count in these weeks of pregnancy, when I actually am up to talking to people. Especially with how the pregnancy has been going, people are just sure.
Nearly everyone has said some variant of it. From the polite "maybe it will be"s to the down right annoying "you better have gotten it right this time"s that baffle me. I am pretty sure everyone who knows us is certain we only broke the two children standard the American world seems to hold so dear because we had not yet had a girl.
I won't throw it back if its a girl (that was an attempt at humor, if you missed it, seriously chill). But I know boys. I have only had boys. I am fine with boys. In fact, I down right love 'em. I relish being a mom of boys, I love that I can refer to my household as "my men" with a hint of humor but no need for qualifications.
Even back when I babysat I only ever had boys. Come to think of it, I do not think I have ever changed a girl's diaper. The thought actually terrifies me. Let's be frank here, I know for sure how unpleasant a diaper change can be with the anatomy of a chubby little boy. There are some wrinkly, foldy parts there that poop just makes a mess of. But it is not a *glances over her shoulder* vagina.
I mean seriously, WTF do you do with that?!
No, don't tell me. I don't want to know.
Not unless I have to.
|Its a ...OMG!|
But most of all, I hate that if I have a girl people will exclaim"finally" like I accomplished the real goal. Or if I have another boy they will sigh and say "will you try again?" because for some reason the fact I have only had boys is a failure. Like my sons are insignificant.
If I have a girl, then I have one. If I don't and I have another boy, then I have another boy. Neither is a failure, and technically both were the goal. We didn't plan this pregnancy with the purpose of having a girl OR a boy. We planned to have a baby. A child. A sibling for the kids we have. A person. That was it. No need for a specific gender, and I have never understood that.
|Its ... THE BABY!|
I would be as passionate a mother of a daughter, but it saddens me when people undervalue my sons simply because I already have them and especially because I have more than one. I don't need a matched pair or a set, I need a child that is here and healthy as possible. You're over complicating and over thinking things if you go beyond that.
Parenthood is complicated and terrifying enough. Why add more stress to it, especially with something that I have quite literally NO control of.
Deep breathing now ... I am not going to worry about any of it until I know I need to.