Food allergies suck. No two ways about it, allergies in general suck. It was really easy to get totally overwhelmed in the beginning with the Beans' diagnoses, and my own for that matter, to just be like "dude, we ain't goin' anywhere!" because the world is impossible to control. When it is you, when you could die because of something that is invisible and common to everyone else, that totally stinks.
When it is your kid? Man, I have no words to adequately explain it.
But it is critical to Bunyan and I that we teach Beans and Meatball (who has food sensitivities, though not allergies) how to navigate the world independently.
Then holidays like Halloween come along and its like someone punted you between the legs.
Okay, how bout this, Halloween comes along and just fucks it all up? No, still too strong? Well my point is that we have a lot of food related holidays and celebrations in our society and it really does a number on my "don't want to face it!" head-in-the-sand wishes.
We navigated Easter, but Halloween is a doozey.
Or is it?
I was so anxious leading up to Halloween ... and I am not sure why exactly. Maybe this year was just stupidly easy and I got lucky?
We did not buy any candy. That was the first relief. It sucked too, because it meant I had none to steal, but I supposed that may be a blessing in disguise.
Since we weren't handing out candy, I hit the dollar store for these bad boys:
Glow bracelets! Seriously, we were quite the popular house! No one was like "where's the candy?" Everyone, parents AND kids alike, loved the glow bracelets.
Meatball also dressed up as a haphazard scarecrow and scared the crap out of soccer moms who were escorting their kids.
Seriously, he scared more parents than he did children.
But that brings me to the second awesome point -- we didn't take anyone trick or treating this year. Meatball was old enough to like scaring people and Beans has no idea it is even an option.
So I lucked out there, but I already have some planning in for next year if my luck runs out by then. Since Meatball knew he was being denied candy overall, I promised him an exchange. Net year we will actually swap any candy that is obtained if either kid trick or treats with a toy or small gift of some kind. This year both boys picked Legos and were plenty happy with that.
Also, I plan to make use of this if we get candy and need to offload it in a good way. How cool is that, our house stays safe and troops get some goodies? Deal!
Overall, I think I am still new enough to the allergy world to panic when events crop up. The holidays are a real witch to deal with, but for every frustrating situation I encounter there are another 10 supportive people who want to help and accommodate us if possible. If I could tell the panicky me taht was convinced my child would be doomed to rice cakes and celery for life anything, I would certainly start with "chill, it will be okay. Normal is relative, you will discover a new normal."
Our "normal" is glow bracelets and that just isn't so terrible.